Changing Lives Through Big Tips

I’ve been a restaurant server for many years. It was my first job when I turned 16 and it ended up being my longest running gig. Serving tables is what put me through college and what helped me support my son. Of course, it wasn’t always easy. At times, it was the hardest gig imaginable. I’ve been disrespected, I’ve been yelled at, and I’ve cried. Despite all that, I’ve looked forward to coming to work. That’s because everyone once and a while I would meet a wonderful customer. I would meet someone that not only would tip me nicely but would also show me respect. That’s why whenever I see stories about customers giving huge tips to deserving waiters, it makes me smile. I know just how hard it is and I know just how much an unexpected blessing can turn someones life around.

Recently, I read a story on Huffington Post which brought me to tears. A waitress was left a generous $1,200 tip. The single mom who received the tip was brought to tears as well. She did something amazing with the money and took her children on a shopping spree for Christmas. I can just picture the joy that those kids felt. It was amazing that she didn’t even think to spend the money on herself. She selflessly wanted to give her children a Christmas to remember. That’s when you know that the money was given to the right person. The waitress almost took the day off, as well! It’s amazing to think just how quickly someones fate can change just by one small decision.

She wasn’t the only one that received a tip like that. It actually happens every now and then. According to Detroit Newsanother lucky lady received a big tip. This time hers was %3,000. She plans on using the money to pay off debt. I’d like to think that karma does exist and these big tips find their way to deserving waitresses. All too often we hear about the bad that happens in the world. That’s why even though it’s something as simple as a tip, it still makes a big difference.

Many waiters and waitresses depend solely on tips. Although some people realize this, unfortunately the majority does not. That’s why one big tip can make up for not receiving any. It’s heartwarming that someone goes out of their way to do something that they didn’t need too. They simply want to make a difference in someone else’s lives. The only payment they need is seeing the joy spread across their servers face. Often, these people who make the donation wish to remain anonymous because they don’t do it for the recognition. It’s amazing.

Changing Lives Through Big Tips

Voting for Change – Women’s Voices Being Heard

It’s not even 2016. Not by my calendar, at least. Yet, I’m already confused by the upcoming presidential campaign and the current candidates who are bidding and bartering for one of the most powerful positions in the world. Start with Donald Trump’s often offensive yet forthright tactics, front-runner Hillary Clinton’s email scandal and Bernie Sanders’ surprising grassroots-takeover, then add to the mix an oversized potluck of other POTUS suitors – and well, getting overwhelmed is no difficult task. Throw in some intense local issues that affect my county, city and state, and I am honestly conflicted about the choices I will make come voting season.

It was during my scouring for updated information about Bernie Sanders’ political views that I was humbly reminded of something that is so easy to forget, but so critical to remember – I am allowed to vote. I am allowed to make choices and then cast those choices into the multitude with others’ decisions; male and female voices alike. CNN’s news site informed me that this week, in the year 2015, women can register to vote for the first time in the history of Saudi Arabia.

Although I haven’t been naive nor blind to the plight women in other countries experience, it’s regrettably simple to become numb to their oppression; however, I’m delighted to finally read about a definite win for women’s rights globally. It’s just one step, I know; for the women in Saudi Arabia who do vote, their choices will only be reflected at the municipal level and will have no affect on the exclusive laws and rulings that are handed down by the country’s monarchy. I’m not unaware. As an anonymous Saudi Arabian woman said in CNN’s article, “This is just a small part of women’s rights, participating in the municipal elections, and possibly women can perform even better than men.” I agree, and I wholeheartedly hope that the Sunni Islam practicing country will in time allow female citizens to share their voices and have an expanded role in Saudi society.

As Human Rights Watch’s article mentions, women in Saudi Arabia having this new opportunity to vote is a start. A start, after all, is always better than staying stuck in a stagnant and unjust history.

Voting for Change – Women’s Voices Being Heard

How to know when it’s time to say “I love you”

This can be a very tricky subject because most women don’t want to be the first one to say it and guys are scared to say it because they are worried that you won’t say it back. Sometimes there are signs that just say your relationship is “there.” One of the signs of this is when you both go out of your way to not say it. That is a clear sign it is on both of your minds and you both are holding it back. When you are trying to avoid saying it, it is time to say it. Another sign is when you have met the other one’s parents, especially if you BOTH have met the other one’s parents. Believe me, when you take your significant other to meet your parents, you’re sure. If you have known your significant other’s parents for so long that you are on a first name basis with them it is probably time to say “I love you.” 

When you are comfortable enough to pass gas and/or burp, you know it’s time. Now we all know that you have to be pretty comfortable with someone to do that. You aren’t just going to do something like that unless it was something that slipped away from you. When you will go to the bathroom with the door open, you know it’s time to say “I love you.” When you know each other so well, you already know what the other wants, be it what they want to eat, to drink, or picking out clothes to buy for them, if you know each other that well, you are in love! When you are the one they call when they get hurt and are at the emergency room, you know it’s time!

When they put you down on their insurance policy as their beneficiary, you know it’s time. When you both keep looking at each other without saying anything and its okay, you know it’s time. When you two are asleep and you try to roll over and he pulls you back in his arms, you know it’s time. When he calls you and tells you he can’t make lunch with his mom but asks if you can go instead, you know he loves you and it’s time to tell him you love him too. When he drops by your office and surprises you for lunch, you know it’s time.

When you crouch down to pet and love on a puppy or dog and then look lovingly into your significant other’s eyes, you know. When everyone you know talks about how you look at each other and how cute you are together, it’s probably that time. When you start thinking about having a child with that person, you’re in love. When you start looking at houses and are seriously considering buying one together, you are in love. When all you can think about is how much you love him, it’s time to tell him.

How to know when it’s time to say “I love you”